Category: Writing

Draw Inspiration from the Creative Work of Others

It’s a Saturday afternoon. I am walking through a gallery at the Bergamot Station Arts Center during their seasonal block party when I happen upon this work of art.

As I take it in, the image takes me beyond the white walls of the gallery into my own memories. My twenty-something self parks on the street late night at night with a friend. One thing dominates my view: the glowing sign on the taco truck, guiding us to the next stop of the night. I can feel that moment with me, stirring memories of all the other limitless nights of my twenties.

I ponder: How did a piece of art by a stranger evoke such a meaningful personal experience? How could I bring this into my own work?

I pull out the mini-notebook that I carry with me everywhere and jot down a few thoughts:

Art isn’t the content itself. It represents the whole. It zeros in on the most poignant detail to give you the sharpest, most vivid sense of the whole.

The lights of the taco truck are the first thing you’d see in real life. They evoke the most feeling along with the shiny flames on the bottom, so those two elements are a different medium than the rest. They are designed to stand out.

I notice how the accented elements bring me closer to the real experience of going to a taco truck: The first thing I see when I’m driving or walking towards one is the light-up sign.

This realization inspires me to explore this question in my own work:

What are the most poignant moments in the story that represent my main character’s present, past, and growth?

I feel a new sense of clarity in how to take the complexity of the story I’m telling and offer it meaningfully to readers.

It also drives me to explore this question, integral to creating these poignant moments:

What drives me to create this story?

Every sentence, every word, every punctuation comes back to this question. I have been feeling a little stalled on my own writing, and I am thrilled to find clarity in such different creative works.

Another show at the event that resonated with me was Perpetual Motion by Gregory Malphurs, which had a collection of paintings, many of which looked like these:

These stop me in my tracks. I love the vividness of the colors and the way they evoke thoughts about identity. I find these to be such a beautiful expression of one’s internal experience vs. outward appearance. We see these outer shells like clothing choice, gender expression, skin tone, and body art. They can evoke preconceived notions about a person, but they don’t show us what it’s really like inside their individual mind. To me, the many colors show how multifaceted we are as human beings. The streams of motion evoke how we are always changing and (hopefully) growing. It takes time and open-minded perception to get to know the real person.

Even after we know a person fairly deeply, the ability to continue to truly see them requires openness to how they are changing and to sides they haven’t expressed to us yet. It brings to mind a quote that’s been marinating in my mind lately:

“For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.”

-Thich Nhat Hanh

To me, this is the basis of creative thinking: taking something familiar and seeing it in a new way.

How to Draw Inspiration from the Creative Work of Others

I think there is a communal reservoir of creativity that we can all contribute to and draw inspiration from. In my upcoming posts, I’ll share some of the ways to do this based on my own experiences and advice from others. Here’s the first:

1. Explore local art galleries and events for pieces that resonate.

I haven’t studied visual art in any formal way. I’m a beginner, learning as I go. I’m usually not sure what I’m looking for. But I’ve found that, when I go with an open mind, there’s usually a piece or more that resonates with me. I’m especially drawn to spaces like the Bergamot Arts Center because it’s a collection of galleries, offering a wide range of artistic styles and mediums to explore.

The most intense exhibit I discover that day, Crude Aesthetics, is very different than the kind of creative work that I aim to create, especially in its tone. Yet, it evokes one very important aspect of my creative efforts: how art can immerse us into an idea in a unique and memorable way.

You walk into a dark room where video footage is projected of oil pumpjacks at work, hidden in unassuming urban spaces. On the walls are photographs like the one below about the oil industry and made of oil itself. The entire room creates an experience aimed to show how prevalent yet hidden the oil industry is in our daily lives. It was eerie. I can still hear those oil machines pumping away. I can still see their haunting presence beside a McDonald’s drive-thru.

Continuing the theme of different yet meaningful works of art, the unusual piece below combining technology and visual aesthetic by Mark C. Estes gave me a sense of peace to watch as it morphed in color, shape, and motion. It’s designed to never repeat.

Standard Random Digitization, 2023

I love diving into spaces like these. While I did look up which exhibitions interested me before going, I couldn’t have predicted how it would be to experience them in person. That day turned out to be one of my most memorable experiences of the summer.

I also learned a valuable lesson: whenever I’m feeling stagnant in my own creative efforts, I can get up, get out into the world, and explore the creativity of others. We can help each other remember why we do this: why creating matters.

This article, like most of my pieces, is a part of an ongoing series. In an upcoming article, I’ll share the many ways I use music to inspire my creative endeavors.

Further

For more on all the inspiring creatives I mention above, check out:

Artist Javier Carrilo (Oaxaca exhibit) instagram: @javier_carrillo213la

Artist Gregory Malphus (Perpetual Motion exhibit) website: https://www.gregorymalphursart.com/

Artists Kaya & Blank (Crude Aesthetics) website: https://www.kayablank.com/home

Artist Mark C. Estes (Standard Digital Randomization) website: https://www.estesdezine.com/

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series How to Overcome Writer's Block

LA Becomes a Writers’ Playground in November

In a wine bar in downtown Los Angeles, a group of writers are immersed in their laptops, crafting their respective stories as they sip on half-full glasses of red. From a dining terrace adjacent to the Century City skyline, authors embark on a writing sprint, adding as many words to the page as possible in the span of 15 minutes.

A shopper walks into an Ikea showroom to find novelists at every desk, couch, and bathtub, entranced in their fictional worlds. She backs away with a bewildered look on her face.

In a library community room, a shovel travels from one writer’s story to another’s on a murderous rampage. Holed up in an Irish Pub, authors challenge themselves to write a mile’s worth of words (5280) over the course of one night.

Welcome to November: the month that Los Angeles turns into a writers’ playground.

Note: I’m personally familiar with the experience in LA, but NaNoWriMo is international, check out the website for info about events in your own region.

November is National Novel Writing Month, also known as NaNoWriMo, where participants all over the world set out to write 50,000 words in one month. With such an ambitious goal, these writers write on a daily basis, dedicating virtually every free moment to their craft to stay on target with 1667 words per day.

As impressive as that is, what I think is most inspiring about NaNoWriMo isn’t the high word count, but the great sense of community among writers during this time.

I realized I wanted to be a writer in junior year of high school. That year, every book my English teacher Mr. Altenburg chose was an enlightening experience in what the written word could do. From The Scarlet Letter to Bright Lights, Big City―one of my favorite novels to this day―I saw this incredible ability to express ideas and feelings while immersing the reader in a fascinating story. I knew I wanted to do it myself.

Through the rest of high school into studying American Literature at UCLA, I learned all I could from the great writers of the past into today, how they crafted their stories through their choice of literary techniques, and about the various historical movements within literature. I loved modernism and postmodernism most because of the way they could bridge past our expectations of what a book could be with their imaginative techniques. I wrote a handful of short stories, developing my literary voice myself. I became editor of the queer newsmagazine on campus where I learned about the journalistic principles of writing, as well as editing, and design, all while getting a taste of deadlines.

Then I graduated. Wait, now what?

While most occupations have a well-lit paved path of development―a certain amount of education, internships, entry-level jobs, working hard to reach your goal at a company―the path of a writer is more like wandering through a dark forest where occasionally you can see a glimpse of the moon through a gap overhead in the throngs of trees. Until you reach your destination, you can’t really tell if you’re on a trail towards it or wandering in circles in the wilderness.

Events like NaNoWriMo remind us that we’re not alone in this. During November, writers gather to write in each other’s company on a daily basis in Los Angeles and many more cities.

Writing is often a solitary activity, but in November with thousands of writers united in dedication to their creative process, it becomes a whole other world. Writers take over coffee shops and libraries all over the city. Some write-ins get more creative with the setting like wine bars, a cafe at the Huntington, and the Annenberg Community Beach House. There are particularly unique events like the writing take over at Ikea and the Mile High Club 5280 word challenge. There are also a number of online write-ins, allowing one to join fellow writers at virtually any time of the day.

*The Huntington Library Botanical Garden 1919 Cafe Terrace. Photo: Ser Amantio di Nicolao.*

I first joined the NaNoWriMo community in November 2022. At the tail end of a year of searching for belonging and finding dead ends, I found a haven in gathering with fellow writers.

I haven’t participated in NaNoWriMo in the traditional way. There were previous years where I’d flirt with the idea of going after the 50,000 word goal early in November but soon realized that it didn’t align with my writing process. I know it can be very motivating for some, but everyone is different.

This year, with my realization that I’m neurodivergent (more on this in an upcoming article), I’ve realized how important it is to evaluate what really suits me individually and let go of norms that weren’t designed with my brain in mind.

NaNoWriMo also offers create-your-own path options. The website allows writers to opt out of the 50,000 words and set independent word count goals. For myself, I’ve found that I thrive with just a simple goal to write every day. Often, I start sessions with a very small aim in mind, such as writing for 15 minutes, because it makes it unintimidating to get started. And once I get going, it becomes much easier to extend that 15 minutes into longer frames of time. Once I get going, I often find that I don’t want to stop.

For me, when I let go of the pressure to write something good or to write a particular amount, and I just let myself create, my love of writing takes over, and the words flow.

In the spirit of choosing your own path, NaNoWriMo isn’t an event exclusive to novelists. Many participants choose to write something besides a 50,000 word novel. From memoirists to screenwriters to poets, these “Nano rebels” enrich the community.

Whether you’re following the NaNoWriMo challenge to the letter or striving for a personal goal, I’ve found that there’s a lot to enjoy about the event.

Beyond word counts and goals, which are theoretically possible all year round, why is NaNoWriMo such a motivating time for writers?

I think it’s because at its core NaNoWriMo gives us this: The permission to go all-in. To wake up early or stay up late to hit our goal for the day. To spend half our lunch hour on our novel. To meet up with fellow writers instead of zoning out at the TV at the end of the work day. It’s a challenge that allows us to prioritize our creative efforts perhaps the way we wish we could more often.

For more information on NaNoWriMo and the writing community in LA and beyond, here are some of my favorite groups and resources.

NaNoWriMo

LA Events

LA Calendar

Nano Coffeehouse Discord

Shut Up & Write

A year-round global writing community with online write-ins and in-person events in many cities

SUAW Los Angeles Meetup

SUAW Sacramento Meetup

SUAW Online Meetup

The Natural Muse

A year-round meetup group that gathers to write in natural locations around Los Angeles

Meetup

Create Your Own Second Chances

Los Angeles – 2003. My teenage self is an expert level chess player, competing in one of my favorite annual tournaments, the U.S. Open Chess Championship. This particular tournament is special because it’s the first one where I start to gain the confidence and ability to defeat master level players, which is the rank above expert.

Entering the final round, I have 6 wins out of 8 games, three of which were victories against masters. A win in the last round would net me the expert prize in the tournament (3 grand) and an invitation to the U.S. Closed Championship. But if I lose the game, I’ll go home empty-handed after 9 days of intense effort.

I’m paired against the reigning U.S. Women’s Champion, a strong master, but this tournament I’ve learned not to be intimidated by this caliber of player. I’m confident. The opening moves of the game go into what my coach and I expected, and I enter the middlegame with a very good position.

I can feel victory present all over the position, so many opportunities. In fact, I run low on time, trying to decide between different good moves and routes to victory. With less time to think, I make a minor error. The position is still winning for me, but one mistake leads to another. The position becomes complicated and unclear. The clock is ticking down. I try to find my way through, but gradually and then suddenly, I watch it all slip away. A winning position and what would’ve been the strongest tournament performance of my life at the time turns into quickly shuffling the pieces around, trying to salvage the game into me shaking my opponent’s hand in resignation.

My coach walks up to the board after the game is finished and shows me multiple ways I could’ve won. There is nothing quite like being that close and failing.

After this tournament, my confidence in my chess ability takes a dip. My newfound ability to defeat masters is shaken. It takes me quite a while to rediscover it.

I wish I understood back then that, as heartbreaking as that failure was, it was just the middle of the story. I’ve since learned that life is loaded with second chances. Success has a lot more to do with not giving up than it does with magically getting it right the first time.

Stephen King is one of the most prolific and successful writers of all time. Yet, here’s his initial attempts to get his writing published were loaded with years of rejection letters:

“When I got the rejection slip from AHMM, I pounded a nail into the wall, wrote “Happy Stamps” on the rejection slip, and poked it onto the nail.

By the time I was fourteen, the nail in my wall would no longer support the weight of the rejection slips impaled upon it. “

-Stephen King, On Writing

Yet, I love the simple way he describes his reaction in the face of failure:

“I replaced the nail with a spike and went on writing. “

-Stephen King, On Writing

He just kept writing. It’s so easy to misunderstand what a failure really means. When I lost that last round of the U.S. Open, I let it sink into my overall confidence in my abilities—when all it really meant was that I lost one game.

Stephen King could see what each rejection letter really meant: At that time, that one publication has not accepted that one story. One rejection letter has no bearing on the next publication he submits to or the next story he writes. Our failures are important to see realistically and learn from, but they do not define our future or our overall level of ability and potential.

It can be so easy to get lost in our own fears of rejection and failures. It’s so easy to second guess what you’re creating before it’s had a chance to reach its potential and find its audience.

It helps me to remind myself of fellow writers and others with great ideas and aspirations who grappled with many setbacks before seeing concrete progress:

After receiving 27 rejections for his first book, Theodor Geisel, better known as Dr. Seuss, was on the verge of giving up on writing completely. Serendipitously, he ran into a friend who had just become an editor for the children’s section of a publishing house. When he mentioned his plans to give up and destroy the book, the editor asked to take a look, leading to its publication. Today, Geisel’s books have sold over 600 million copies.

Steven Spielberg was rejected by USC’s Film School three times. Despite this major setback, he continued working at his craft, obtained an internship in the editing department at Universal Studios, and made a short film that led to his first directing contract.

Michael Jordan cites his willingness to risk failure as a key aspect of his success:

“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

-Michael Jordan

Robert Pirsig‘s book, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, which went on to sell millions of copies, received 121 rejections before being accepted for publication.

The first book of the now best-selling series, Chicken Soup for the Soul, by Jack Canfield received 144 rejections. He believed in his book and kept searching until he found a yes:

“If we had given up after 100 publishers, I likely would not be where I am now. I encourage you to reject rejection. If someone says no, just say NEXT!”

-Jack Canfield

Jack London, one of the first widely successful American authors, received over six hundred rejection slips before he sold his first story.

Thomas Edison famously tried 1000 ideas before successfully inventing the light bulb. Yet, he maintained his motivation by reframing how he viewed these attempts:

Reporter: “How did it feel to fail 1000 times?”

Thomas Edison: “I didn’t fail 1000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1000 steps.”

Finally, I find Peter Dinklage’s story of failure to success in his 2012 commencement speech particular inspiring:

What I love about these stories is how so many of these individuals created their own second, third, fourth, fifth, etc. chances by continuing to improve at their craft, test out new ideas, and/or get their work out to new audiences―no matter what.

“The world might say you are not allowed to yet. I waited a long time out in the world before I gave myself permission to fail. Don’t bother asking, don’t bother telling the world you are ready. Show it.”

-Peter Dinklage

In 2010, I find myself with a renewed energy and confidence to attempt to reach master level in chess. I also experience a bit of luck: the U.S. Open Chess Championship, which is played in different cities across the country each year, returns to Southern California.

As a college student at the time, I only prepare for the tournament for a few weeks beforehand. But it’s enough to refresh my decade of chess knowledge, combined with a stronger level of confidence and life experience.

Mid-tournament, it’s like my chess abilities are on fire. I can see clearly the usually hidden weaknesses in the play of strong masters. Again, I reach the last round with 6 points of 8 with ― 3 victories against masters. I’m in contention for the same 3 grand expert prize, and I’m paired against another strong master.

It’s a new version of the same event. Again, I’ve been playing at an unusually high level for myself. There is one last high caliber player that stands in my way. Only now I have the chance to change the ending.

That final round is a chaotic battle of minds. Each time I try to get the upper hand, my opponent counters. Each time he tries to get the upper hand, I find a resource to keep the position unclear. But there is a focus I have. My mind is not focused on the result, but the game itself, willing to put in whatever it takes.

My opponent makes a significant mistake. This is my chance: a few more critical moves with everything is on the line. I calculate ahead carefully. With one subtle move, the position turns in my favor. This time, I don’t give my opponent any chance to get back into the game.

As he resigns, my opponent remarks: “You deserved the win. You wanted it more.”

With my confidence in my abilities restored, I go on to earn the master title myself within a few more tournaments.

“Ever tried? Ever failed? No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.”

-Samuel Beckett

Have you ever created your own second chance? Are you in the process of creating one? Feel free to share your own experiences in the comments below.

Read to jumpstart your writing.

“If you want to be a writer, you do two things above all others: read a lot and write a lot.”

-Stephen King, On Writing

Reading can be one way to jumpstart your writing, especially reading examples of the type of writing you’d like to create.

When I first read one of my favorite books, Bright Lights, Big City, I wrote a short story of my own, testing out the unique writing style of the book (the entire novel is written in second person). Not only was this exercise fun and inspiring, I think I learned a lot about my own writing in the process.

I believe most writers develop their own voice gradually through trial and error. By immersing yourself in many influences and trying your hand at the writing style of others, you learn what works for you and what doesn’t. You start to see what you can do differently. You find ways to take what’s been done before and add your own spin to it.

“When I read Ray Bradbury as a kid, I wrote like Ray Bradbury—everything green and wondrous and seen through a lens smeared with the grease of nostalgia.

…When I read Lovecraft, my prose became luxurious and Byzantine. I wrote stories in my teenage years where all these styles merged, creating a kind of hilarious stew. This sort of stylistic blending is a necessary part of developing one’s own style.”

…You have to read widely, constantly refining (and redefining) your own work as you do so.

…Reading is the creative center of a writer’s life. I take a book everywhere I go, and find there are all sorts of opportunities to dip in. The trick is to teach yourself to read in small sips as well as in long swallows. “

-Stephen King, On Writing

“I read everything. I read my way out of the two libraries in Harlem by the time I was thirteen. One does learn a great deal about writing this way. First of all, you learn how little you know. It is true that the more one learns the less one knows. I’m still learning how to write. I don’t know what technique is. All I know is that you have to make the reader see it. This I learned from Dostoyevsky, from Balzac.”

-James Baldwin, “The Art of Fiction No. 78”

You can also read books on the craft of writing itself. There’s a reason I’ve been heavily quoting Stephen King’s book, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft—It’s a superb book on the writing process. It can be so encouraging to find relatable voices of other writers who have been through the same challenges and struggles and made it to the other side–to see that Stephen King too originally had doubts in works that went on to be key pieces of writing for him. Here’s the origin of Carrie, his first published novel:

“I did three single-spaced pages of a first draft, then crumpled them up in disgust and threw them away.

The next night, when I came home from school, Tabby had the pages. She’d spied them while emptying my wastebasket, had shaken the cigarette ashes off the crumpled balls of paper, smoothed them out, and sat down to read them. She wanted me to go on with it, she said. She wanted to know the rest of the story. I told her I didn’t know jack-shit about high school girls. She said she’d help me with that part. She had her chin tilted down and was smiling in that severely cute way of hers. ‘You’ve got something here,’ she said. ‘I really think you do.’ “

-Stephen King, On Writing

I love reading books about writers and the craft of writing. When I wanted to prepare myself for publishing this blog and more openly sharing my writing, I found a relatable voice from Adair Lara in Naked, Drunk, and Writing.

When I wanted to strengthen my plot writing skills, Story Genius by Lisa Cron helped me write the character backstory that plot is built from. The Plot Whisperer by Martha Alderson helped me learn to create plot within my “Pantser” (a writer who writes “by the seat of their pants”, discovering the story as they write it) tendencies.

When I wanted to learn to be a faster writer, I read 5000 Words Per Hour by Chris Fox and 2000 to 10,000 by Rachel Aaron, both of which opened my mind to how much writing you can get done with focus and practice. When I wanted to learn to write more unique and meaningful emotional scenes for my characters, I found The Emotional Craft of Fiction by Donald Maass to be immensely helpful.

For me, reading daily has been just as beneficial as writing daily. Every morning, I start my day with reading and a cup of tea to get myself in the right headspace for my writing session.

“I wake up around 5am. I have 2–3 cups of coffee. I read and read and read for two hours. I read high quality literary fiction to be inspired, high quality non-fiction about a topic I am fascinated by in order to learn, I read inspirational or spiritual writing to feel that special something inside, and often I will spend some time studying a game. Then I might read the literary fiction some more. At some point, I get the urge or the itch to put the books away. I go to my computer and start to write.”

-James Altucher, “Want To Be The Best Writer On The Planet? Do These 27 Things Immediately”

This entry is part 4 of 5 in the series How to Overcome Writer's Block

Start with one small step at a time.

My 11-year-old self sits at a chess board. On all sides of me, there are rows after rows of chess boards, nearly overflowing the vast chandelier-lit ballroom in Las Vegas. For the first time, I am so nervous I’m shaking at the board.

It’s the final round of the highest stakes tournament of my young life, the finale of three days straight of nerve-wrecking competitive chess. I’ve won the first five games, and I’m tied for first place with an opponent who has done the same.

I know that I am a single victory away from winning an inconceivable amount of money to me at the time. I am also aware that I’m a single loss away from blowing it.

What got me through this?

From the start of the tournament, one thought carried me through: “One game at a time”.

This came with the realization of what seemed to hold me back at previous tournaments: the immensity of aiming to win every game. I realized how overwhelming and distracting this is as a goal because really—you can only ever win one game at a time. It’s a waste to worry about any of the other games until you get to them.

This revelation made the nerve-wrecking and immense task of winning such a high stakes tournament within reach. I felt such relief at the thought that I only ever have to deal with the game at hand. That last round, I crawled one nerve-wrecking move at a time through to a messy and hard-fought victory.

In the same way, you can’t write an entire book in one sitting. No matter how short or epic you intend your piece to be, you’ll still write it one word at a time.

“On days when the mind and the page went blank, I just kept my fingers close to the keyboard, walking distance close, just in case something would happen. I had to pay close attention. I reminded myself that a novel begins by one word following another. One sentence followed by another. One paragraph followed by another; that discipline, soldier-like discipline was absolutely necessary- as Flannery O’Connor once said, ‘If there’s a great idea somewhere out there, it knows where to find me- between 9-12 at my desk;’ By working on sentences one at a time, I realized I wouldn’t be so intimidated by the scope of the novel.”

-Helena Maria Viramontes in an interview with La Bloga

Often times when I begin a writing session, I start with the simple aim of writing one worthwhile sentence. Of course, once I have an idea that leads to one sentence, more tend to flow onto the page with it.

It’s a useful trick. Think about it, how hard is it to write one sentence on a topic, about an experience, or for a fictional story? One sentence? That’s so reachable.

“Abandon the idea that you are ever going to finish. Lose track of the 400 pages and write just one page for each day; it helps. Then when it gets finished, you are always surprised.”

-John Steinbeck, Steinbeck: A Life in Letters

For more on the idea of starting small, check out tip #7 of 10 Tips to Writing Every Day.

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series How to Overcome Writer's Block

Don’t underestimate your ideas.

“I was 22 and didn’t realise I was working on a novel, which made things easier, as there were fewer questions to force myself not to ask: is it good? Will anyone care? Do I?

I have never experienced what is often called “writer’s block” – the inability to think of what to write. But I am a chronic sufferer of “Jonathan block” – the inability to value my thoughts.”

-Jonathan Safran Foer

As mentioned in the intro to this article, writing blocks often occur because of self-doubt. Self-doubt can be extremely dangerous to ideas that are still developing. Some of the most successful works of literature required a leap of faith to see the ideas through to the finish line.

“Let’s get one thing clear right now, shall we? There is no Idea Dump, no Story Central, no Island of the Buried Bestsellers; good story ideas seem to come quite literally from nowhere, sailing at you right out of the empty sky: two previously unrelated ideas come together and make something new under the sun. Your job isn’t to find these ideas but to recognize them when they show up.”

-Stephen King, On Writing

The first draft is not the time to be too critical of your work. Seeds of ideas need a chance to grow into their potential.

“Get the first draft done no matter what. Then the real work begins.

Too many people agonize paragraph by paragraph.

to the finish line. Then go back and walk over every step you made and see what you can do better. This is the real gift you give your reader.”

-James Altucher, “The Horrible Things About Being a Full-Time Writer”

Some of the greatest works of literature began as ideas that were nearly tossed away. I was happily surprised to find that my favorite fiction book had very humble roots:

“It started life as a paragraph scrawled on a scrap of paper very early one morning after a disastrous night on the town.

Many months later I found that scrap of paper and thought the voice was intriguing.”

-Jay McInerney on writing Bright Lights, Big City

The novel’s second person narrative is the main standout aspect of the book. Yet, even that was initially doubted.

“When I told my best friend and future editor Gary Fisketjon what I was doing he said that he hoped I wasn’t trying to write an entire novel in the second person. I was too embarrassed to tell him that that was precisely what I was doing.

the prose seemed to go a little flat; I stuck with the second person, and I have certainly never regretted it. It’s not a very versatile mode and I don’t recommend it in general, but I can’t imagine Bright Lights in any other voice.”

-Jay McInerney

Writing can be such a solitary struggle. At the end of a long session of writing, you feel excited about what you’ve created but also worried that you’ve spent too much time engrossed in your own thoughts. It can be very difficult to tell if your writing will be well-received or only end up appealing to yourself.

“Perhaps most importantly, write for an audience of one — yourself. Write the story you need to tell and want to read. It’s impossible to know what others want so don’t waste time trying to guess. Just write about the things that get under your skin and keep you up at night.”

-Khaled Housseni, “Khaled Housseni: How I Write”

During my years as a chess journalist for US Chess, one article that was a major turning point for me was “What’s Your Goal in Chess?”. The article explored a new style of writing for me, including personal anecdotes about my own chess struggles. I spent the majority of three days straight working tirelessly to make the piece as strong as possible. I also spent most of that time excited about what I was writing.

However, by the time I finished the article late on the third night, I re-read it one last time and felt discontent with the entire piece. I worried that the personal anecdotes I included would come off as self-indulgent. I doubted even publishing it.

I was dead-wrong, suffering the curse of too many re-reads (eventually, anything can feel banal if you read it enough times).

“If I think something I’ve written is something I would enjoy reading, I’m pleased. I can’t wear myself out second-guessing some phantom reader.”

-Tobias Wolff in an interview with The Paris Review

When I finally pushed the self-doubt away and hit ‘publish’, the article was better received than anything I had written at that point. It went on to win the award for “Best Instructive Lesson” from the Chess Journalists of America and ranked 2nd in the 2016 Best of US Chess Top 10.

“….stopping a piece of work just because it’s hard, either emotionally or imaginatively, is a bad idea. Sometimes you have to go on when you don’t feel like it, and sometimes you’re doing good work when it feels like all you’re managing is to shovel shit from a sitting position.”

-Stephen King, On Writing

To conclude, here is a quote by blogger James Altucher that has guided me through many instances of writing self-doubt.

“I never hit publish unless I’m afraid of what people will think of me.”

-James Altucher

Why would this fear be a good thing? Because it means you’re truly putting your ideas and yourself out there. The will to express something, despite it being hard to say, means that it is all that much more genuine and essential.

This entry is part 2 of 5 in the series How to Overcome Writer's Block

Why I Write Every Day

“Your reason why is more important than how.”

-Charlie Morley

One ordinary afternoon, I’m walking across my living room when, in my mind’s eye, I start to see a setting from my novel. Sunlight is streaming through my apartment windows while my protagonist simultaneously steps into a room full of people at night. I can practically hear their voice saying the first words of the book. There it is, clear as day―a revised version of the opening scene: one that finally feels right.

I had previously written this scene a few times. Each draft had all the same ideas, but, in execution, none of them felt like the compelling moment I envisioned opening my novel with.

Chalking it up to the struggle of first drafts (“The first draft of anything is shit.” -Ernest Hemingway), I continued writing forward, developing other parts of the story. Of course, I knew that someday I’d have to come back to it and give it another try.

The opening scene can make or break a book. If it doesn’t capture the reader’s imagination, what’s to keep them from putting the book back on the shelf or deleting the Kindle preview and never discovering everything else I had in store for them?

I hadn’t looked at the opening scene for months. Yet, here it was, exactly what I’d been looking for.

Was it a random flash of inspiration? Yes and no. While it was certainly unplanned, I don’t think there’s anything random about inspiration. I think we earn our inspiration through consistent effort.

“Don’t loaf and invite inspiration; light out after it with a club, and if you don’t get it you will nonetheless get something that looks remarkably like it.”

— Jack London

This brings us to the first reason I write every day:

1. My story stays with me.

At the time, consistency was all I had. Between a new project I was giving my all to develop and the work I do to earn a living, I didn’t have many hours each day to write. Some days I only had 15 minutes. But I wrote every day, without fail. This meant that my story stayed with me, even as I spent a lot of the day on other things.

When I’m writing consistently, ideas for my story have a tendency to appear throughout the day: when my mind is wandering in the shower or when I’m accelerating on the freeway and a song comes on that reminds me of a scene.

I don’t think inspiration is as mysterious or mystical as it seems. It’s our subconscious mind picking up where our conscious mind has left off, playing with our ideas in new ways. Writing every day, even a little bit, means that my subconscious mind has the opportunity to work on my story every day too.

2. It reinforces my identity as a writer.

For a long time, I saw myself as a writer, but the way I spent my time didn’t reflect this. So I found it difficult to really feel like a writer.

Nowadays, because I start my day with writing, it’s clear that I’m prioritizing my writing. My choices are aligned with my identity. Not only do I greatly enjoy my writing sessions themselves, but the rest of the day is more fulfilling because I’ve expressed myself as a writer first. Later in the day, when I’m working and doing other things, I’m content knowing that I started with the endeavor that matters most to me.

The value of living within your core values is infinite. I discuss this in more detail in my article, Core Values: What Matters to You Most?

3. It gives me the feel of progressing every day.

“Everyday I get a little closer.”

-Jimmy Eat World

Writing a novel takes a really long time. It’s easy to get caught up thinking about what it will take to reach the finish line. It can be discouraging to compare where you are now to where you want to be.

I’ve found focusing on steady progress instead to be the key to staying motivated.

“Abandon the idea that you are ever going to finish. Lose track of the 400 pages and write just one page for each day, it helps. Then when it gets finished, you are always surprised.”

-John Steinbeck

So far, writing everyday is what has worked most effectively for me. Of course, everyone is different. In practice, writers try all kinds of schedules and techniques to make progress. The best way is whatever way works for you personally. The best way is whatever turns your ideas into reality.
Check out my next article, where I share how I write everyday, 10 Tips for Developing a Daily Writing Habit.

10 Tips for Developing a Daily Writing Habit

My 16-year-old self is crafting a short story at the family desktop at 2AM. In the middle of the night, with everyone else asleep and the worries of the day removed, there is a clarity I reach. It’s just me and my protagonist trying to find her way after an unexpected crash. For weeks, I’m at this seat, at this time, enthralled as I create a world for my character to explore. After a few weeks, I finish the story and feel fulfilled by the completed self-expression. I title it “Spin Out”, inspired by the most dizzying ride at the annual local fair.

I can’t remember the next time I wrote.

For years, I had a number of writing experiences that were similarly meaningful and then scattered by many months in-between. I’ve considered myself more a writer than anything else since I was 16-years-old. Yet, for a long time, so many of my days didn’t reflect that identity.

I tried to change that on many occasions. It’s hard to get started after a long hiatus. I found myself feeling unready, fearing I couldn’t reach the headspace to really be at my best.

Diagram: The Cycle of trying to build a writing habit

I’ve gone through some variation of trying to build a daily writing habit a number of times. What changed? How did I break the cycle?

Here’s my guide to developing a daily writing habit.

I write through my self-doubts.

“Leave the drama on the page and keep writing. All writers feel uncertain. Turning something as vaporous as inspiration into words that add up to something meaningful is not an easy task. You have every right to doubt your abilities.”

-Martha Alderson, The Plot Whisperer

In my experience, the greatest battle a writer faces is against their own self-doubts. There are times when I feel overwhelmed by these wandering thoughts that can cause me to question why I write at all:

Will I get too personal? Reveal an embarrassing amount of myself? Will the writing feel self-indulgent? Or maybe I’ll hold back too much, making the writing feel empty and too general?

Will readers question why I’m writing about a topic at all? Why do I believe that my ideas could be of any value to anyone else? Who do I think I am anyway?

Or perhaps, on the contrary, my writing will seem like nothing more than a bragging contest of a monologue?

The paradox of writing is how, on the one hand, it’s so deeply personal and solitary and, on the other, it’s inherently intended to be shared with others.

-Jonathan Safran Foer

I think every writer faces these kinds of questions. I’ve learned to acknowledge each one, often I journal about them to give them their own space of consideration and expression. And then I write anyway.

“If you are not afraid of the voices inside you, you will not fear the critics outside you.”

-Natalie Goldberg, Writing Down the Bones

I create a space that is conducive to focus… for me personally.

“What I’m most proud of is my beautiful office. I built it and decorated it, and then I promptly never used it. It’s important to me to have a museum-quality office, so when people or potential biographers come over they think that’s where I write.

No, where I really write is here. As you can see, when I write, I like to look like I’m recovering from tuberculosis. I sit in bed, my laptop resting on a blanket or a Notre Dame sweatshirt on my lap.

…The blanket/sweatshirt keeps the laptop from getting too hot and radiating my ovaries, which everyone knows makes your children come out with ADD. I almost always write alone in my house. I never have music on, because I can’t concentrate with Nelly Furtado remixes thumping, and, unfortunately, I have only dance music on my iPod, which is how I got to be such a great dancer.”

-Mindy Kaling, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns)

I agree with Mindy Kaling: Forget about the mythical idea of needing the perfect writing space to produce your best work. The best writing space is often in the little things.

I write with all the windows open, letting the morning sunshine or evening rain enliven the room as I dive into the words appearing across my laptop screen.

I always listen to music when I write, subtle melodic electronic music that evokes the tone of what I’m writing. I listen on noise-canceling headphones. I tend to find 1-3 songs that most help me immerse into a scene and play them on repeat the entire session. Whatever it takes to get me mentally and emotionally as close to the story as I can get, so I can take my readers as close as possible too.

“In writing, when you are truly on, there’s no writer, no paper, no pen, no thoughts. Only writing does writing—everything else is gone.”

-Natalie Goldberg, Writing Down the Bones

The songs I listened to on repeat while composing this article?

We Are Lucky People by Lange

Where You Are by EMBRZ

Oceans & Galaxies by Jauz & HALIENE

Drift Away by EMBRZ

I have a means to record my writing ideas no matter where I am & what I’m doing.

One of the amazing things about writing everyday is how often it has led to ideas outside of my writing sessions. In fact, I get ideas for my stories when I’m driving through the city or along Pacific Coast highway with all the SoCal beaches at my side just as frequently as when I sit down for a writing session. But what on earth do I do with a story idea when I’m accelerating down a winding highway? It’s a challenge to take note of the idea at all, let alone develop it.

This is where a voice recorder app becomes infinitely handy. I also nearly always carry a small notebook with a click pen stored in the spiral binding. The Notes app in my phone has a folder dedicated to ideas for my novel and another one for this blog.

It’s really helpful and empowering to know that I can progress my story no matter where I am or what I’m doing.

I stay connected to other writers.

I used to think of writing as a solitary activity. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Once I started looking, I discovered countless other individuals in that same struggle to get their words meaningful on the page. I’ve found a writing group for every morning of the week on Meetup. I’ve met amazing individuals and fellow writers of all kinds from these groups. (In fact, one of my writing groups has been a tremendous help in encouraging me to push past my fears and hesitations and finally publish this blog itself.) I”ve even discovered unknown writing ambitions in friends I already had.

Don’t go through the immense challenge of writing a book alone. Find the writers around you.

I read about other writer’s experiences in the creative process.

What I love most about reading books on writing is discovering how surprisingly relatable the experiences of other more experienced and successful writers are to my own. I’ve learned that Jonathan Safran Foer has to write through his self-doubts―just like I do. And Margaret Atwood has to fight for time to write in her schedule―just like I do.

There isn’t some sort of innate talent that gives some writers sublime abilities and confidence in their work. You don’t have to have a schedule that permits 6 hours a day of writing every day to write a great book.

Writing is a learned and developed craft like any other ability. Progress is incremental. Writing through obstacles is necessary like any other meaningful endeavor.

And while finding your own voice and personal creative process is an individual journey, having a toolkit of advice and techniques from other writers to test out and make your own is infinitely helpful.

In addition, there are books on so many aspects of the writing process. Here are a few of my recommendations:

The Writing Process Itself: On Writing by Stephen King
Writing Practice: Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg
Plot: Story Genius by Lisa Cron, The Plot Whisperer by Martha Alderson, Saves the Cat by Jessica Brody
Writing Emotions: The Emotional Craft of Fiction by Donald Maass

I plant positive writing influences wherever I can.

I’m a very visual person. It helps me stay focused by planting writing influences visually around me anyway I can. I have a purple t-shirt that reads, “It’s a good day to write” that I like to wear during a lot of my writing sessions. I print out meaningful quotes and place them on my walls like this one from John Steinbeck:

“Abandon the idea that you are ever going to finish. Lose track of the 400 pages and write just one page for each day, it helps. Then when it gets finished, you are always surprised.”

I write out my story notes on color-coded legal pads because I find closed notebooks harder to be consistent with (except for my on-the-go writing mini notebook). I have a writing-inspired Pantser mug that I designed myself.

Anything to keep writing on my mind. Anything to emphasize my identity as a writer.

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If I have a busy or tiring day, I still make sure to write for at least 15 minutes.

Last summer, I read a book called Mini Habits by Stephen Guise, which recommends setting a very small daily goal for the habit you’d like to build. Like laughably small. The author, who had failed to build an exercise habit for years, was trying to motivate himself to do 30 minutes of exercise and failing. So, he reset his goal to do just one pushup daily.

When I first started trying to write every day, the idea of sitting down for hours each day to write seemed overwhelming. But 15 minutes of writing―What excuse do I have to avoid 15 minutes of effort towards my art? None. It doesn’t matter if I’m hungry or distracted or tired after a long day of work. I can find 15 minutes of focus and energy.

Some days, if 15 minutes is really all I have in me, that’s okay. I’ve made progress in my writing. I’ve kept my story on my mind. 15 minutes every day builds up.

But usually, once I’ve started writing, I remember how much I love it. I get immersed in what I’m doing. And I can devote much more than 15 minutes.

I’ve found creating “mini-habits” to be surprisingly powerful. It is vastly better to do a small amount than to skip a day. Skipping a day is discouraging while a streak of writing, even for a small amount of time each day, is really encouraging. Setting a small goal makes it way less intimidating to get started, which is where the real struggle is when trying to build a positive habit. Further, you might be happily surprised by how much creativity you can get out of 15 minutes.

Writing every day helps me write every day.

“You don’t wait around for inspiration and a deep desire to run. It’ll never happen, especially if you are out of shape and have been avoiding it. But if you run regularly, you train your mind to cut through or ignore your resistance.”

You just do it. And in the middle of the run, you love it. When you come to the end, you never want to stop.”

-Natalie Goldberg, Writing Down the Bones

I’ll write when I have more free time. I’ll write when I feel inspired. I’ll write when I feel ready and up for creating my best work. There are these myths we tell ourselves about the craft of writing that aren’t connected to the reality of building a writing habit.

Building a habit is, by rule, most difficult at first. You will feel least like it when you are out of practice. It gets easier as you go, and it becomes more second nature. When I’m in the practice of writing at the same time every day, my mind begins to see it as a given that I’ll sit down and write. The resistance lowers as you work at it, not before. Sparks of inspiration and motivation occur much more frequently when I’m in practice as well.

If you don’t feel like you’re the writer ready to create your best work yet, waiting for the moment of magic inspiration isn’t the way to get there. We grow into better writers through writing. Halfway into writing my novel, I’m not at all the same writer I was when I started, and I expect a lot more transformation on the way to finishing. Every day, I learn something new and realize how much more there is for me to learn.

Keeping track of your daily word count is another common method to increase motivation. This can make your progress feel more concrete. While 500 words may not feel like much on any one day, 500 words every day for a month is 15,000 words. Daily progress can really build up!

“You become a writer by writing. There is no other way.

So do it. Do it more. Do it better. Fail. Fail better.”

-Margaret Atwood

I’m careful not to be too hard on myself.

“I think it’s a good idea, especially when you’re younger to keep your hand in by writing something every day. So I recommend it, but it’s another of those recommendations that I myself have been unable to follow.

I think it’s a question of being able to improvise your time.

You come across these descriptions of how people in the golden age, all of them men, managed their time: So they got up in the morning. They had this lovely breakfast prepared by somebody else. Then they went into their oak bookshelved study and sat a large mahogany desk and they did some writing. And then someone would come in with a silver tea service and they would have some tea and then do a bit more writing. And then they would have a lovely lunch, prepared by somebody else. And that would be cleared away. And then they would go back and do a bit more writing. And then they would have a lovely stroll around the gardens, maintained by their gardener. And then they would have some choice friends in for the evening to another lovely dinner, prepared by somebody else.

So… that’s not my life. And it’s probably not the life of many people that you know. So for that reason, you have to be prepared to be interrupted.”

-Margaret Atwood

I hate to miss a day of writing. But life happens. And, by rule, building a new beneficial habit is not easy. You are essentially rewiring your brain to make room for the new habit.

When I miss a day, the biggest risk I face is letting that lead to discouragement. Discouragement can transform one missed day into a missed month. So I try to avoid judging myself and focus on what’s most important: picking my writing back up as soon as I can.

For this, I like to consider how GPS apps handle unexpected circumstances. When I make a wrong turn, does Google Maps tell me it’s disappointed in me? When there is a delay, does Waze question my ability to get to my destination? Would this be the most effective way to get there?

Of course not. My GPS will course correct and show a new route from where I am now to my destination. That’s it. Course correct and keep going.

So when I miss a day or even a couple, I make sure to sit down and write the next one. The goal is not to have some kind of irrelevant perfect streak—the goal is to keep going!

“It doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you do not stop.”

-Confucius

“What if I screw up and miss a day? Or an entire week? That’s totally okay. As soon as you realize you missed some days, get right back up and start again. Don’t judge yourself for missing days, just keep moving forward.”

-Chris Fox, 5,000 Words Per Hour

I reached a point where I wanted to develop my writing more than the things that could get in its way.

I think Ralph Waldo Emerson explains this one best:

“The way to write is to throw your body at the mark when your arrows are spent.”

What techniques help you to write more regularly? Are there any important ones that I’ve missed?

Expand your life experience.

“I’ve now written three novels, but I don’t know how to write them. Each has been the result of its own esoteric, inefficient and frustrating process, each a genuine surprise. I have yet to write the book I planned to write, yet to write in the period of time I imagined the book would take, yet to sustain one way of working through an entire book. I try lots.”

-Jonathan Safran Foer

For a writer, there is nothing quite a blank page. That first moment of opening a notebook or document to begin is an exhilarating tightrope walk between hope and fear.

At first, the blankness is an opportunity.

“That incredible freedom you have with the blank page … Writing the first draft of a book is the biggest high you can get, because there are no rules.”

-Irvine Welsh

You can share your experiences, look at them again with more objectivity, and make sense of your best moments as well as your failures.

Or, you can create from scratch. Characters and unexplored worlds can step from your imagination into the reader’s mind.

You can create someone you relate to, someone you’ve always wanted to be, someone you can’t quite understand—explore what motivates people, what makes them grow, decline, and change.

Writing can be limitless possibility.

“I remember an immense feeling of possibility at the idea, as if I had been ushered into a vast building filled with closed doors and had been given leave to open any I liked. There were more doors than one person could ever open in a lifetime, I thought (and still think).”

-Stephen King, On Writing

The blankness can also transform into a brick wall. When you feel unable to write something worth reading, the white page can taunt you: Do I have nothing of value to say?

Writer’s block can feel like nights when 3 o’ clock in morning hits and sleep still evades you.

Each minute crawls by. Five possible hours of rest turns into four and fifteen minutes turns into three and a half. The stress of not sleeping makes it harder and harder to get to sleep. Will you be awake all night? How do you escape the cycle?

A while back, a well-meaning friend of mine asked if I’d been writing lately.

I answered with, “I’ve been thinking a lot about writing—in other words, no.”

Then, he responded with words I’ve heard many times before: “Just write.”

This is age-old advice: just sit down, push yourself to write something, and the words will come.

“What I try to do is write. I may write for two weeks ‘the cat sat on the mat, that is that, not a rat.’ And it might be just the most boring and awful stuff. But I try. When I’m writing, I write. And then it’s as if the muse is convinced that I’m serious and says, ‘Okay. Okay. I’ll come.'”

-Maya Angelou

In fact, there are an endless amount of successful writers who can claim the answer to writer’s block is to “just write.”

“Compel yourself to write several hours every day no matter how bad you feel.”

-William H. Gass

“I think writer’s block is simply the dread that you are going to write something horrible. But as a writer, I believe that if you sit down at the keys long enough, sooner or later something will come out.”

-Roy Blount, Jr.

“I encourage my students at times like these to get one page of anything written, three hundred words of memories or dreams or stream of consciousness on how much they hate writing — just for the hell of it, just to keep their fingers from becoming too arthritic, just because they have made a commitment to try to write three hundred words every day.”

-Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird

It’s possibly the most common writing advice there is. And, if you’re feeling blocked, it’s also possibly the most useless.

To realize you’re blocked, you most likely already tried to write. And, yes, you can force yourself to sit there weeks on end, dumping your stream of consciousness out, hoping that eventually something better appears.

But, doesn’t there have to be a more useful approach than the simple, “try again”?

In competitive chess, when you lose a game, the best way to improve isn’t to just blindly try again at the next tournament.

If you want better results, you prepare. You study what went wrong, looking over your losses and mistakes. You study materials (books, articles, annotated games) from stronger players, addressing the weak points of your game. Only then do you throw yourself back into competitive play.

So, I set out to find advice for struggling writers that goes beyond “just write”.

Lately, I’ve become a bit of an addict on reading about the craft of writing itself, including interviews and memoirs by great writers of the past and present. Here is the writing advice I’ve found most effective.

1. Expand your life experience.

“Write all the time, they’ll tell you. Write for your college newspaper. Get an MFA. Go to writers’ groups. Send query letters to agents.

What do they never say? Go do interesting things.

…So if you want to be a writer, put ‘writing’ on hold for a while. When you find something that is new and different and you can’t wait to share with the world, you’ll beat your fat hands against the keyboard until you get it out in one form or another.

Everything that is good in my writing came from risks I took outside of school, outside of the “craft.” It was sleeping on Tucker Max’s floor for a year. It was working as Robert Greene’s assistant. It was working at American Apparel, watching the office politics and learning how to get stuff done. It was dropping out of college at 19. It was saying yes to every meeting and introduction I got, and hustling to get as many as I could on my own. It was reading dozens of books a month.

It was going to therapy. It was getting into pointless arguments. It was having friends who are smarter than me. It was traveling. It was living (briefly) in the ghetto. I was able to write about the dark side of the media because I put myself in a position to see it firsthand.

All these things gave me something to say. They gave me a perspective. They gave me a fucked up writing style that makes my voice unique.”

-Ryan Holiday, “So You Want To Be A Writer? That’s Mistake #1

The craft of writing is often misunderstood in two different directions, each on the extremes.

There’s the old-fashioned impression of writing—that it’s reserved only for refined individuals who have offices full of leather-bound books and ornate pens, who exclusively consume single-barrel bourbon neat, who are full of wisdom to share about the great wars and crises of humanity.

On the other hand, with such a low barrier to entry in modern times (it costs nothing and can take as little as 10 minutes to start your own blog or upload your manuscript to Amazon self-publishing), it can be seen as an easy craft, suited for everyone.

Both of these extremes are off the mark. At heart, the most important part of being a writer is having something to say and wanting to share it.

To have something to say, you have to live. You have to make mistakes, lose things that matter to you, lose yourself, recover, and make brand new mistakes.

If you stare at the screen and your mind goes blank, the first step of writing your novel may be stepping outside of your front door.

“Keep human! See people, go places, drink if you feel like it.”

-Henry Miller, Henry Miller on Writing

“But you’ve also got to be prepared to get out and do stuff and look around and engage with people. You’ve got to engage your senses. You live your life, and that way you can bring something new to the table, because otherwise you’re just a compiler or an editor of other people’s experiences.”

-Irvine Welsh, “Failure Is More Interesting”

Experience more, but with a grain of salt:

“When I was young, I idealized writers like Hemingway, Jack London, Orwell, writers who were active in the world. There’s no question at all that when I joined the army there was a kind of literary impulse behind it. I’d learned all the wrong lessons from Hemingway and Erich Maria Remarque and James Jones, all these writers I admired—they were telling me, Don’t be such a fool as to get yourself in a position where you’re going to get shot for nothing by some other fool. And all I could think of was, Jeez, they wrote these great novels because they put themselves in danger and traveled to places where nobody cared if they lived or died. Great! That’s for me!

…the appetite for “experience” is natural to young writers. I’ve seen it often, and surely I had it, no question. But to get back to Flannery O’Connor, what kind of experience did she have, afterall? She spent, what, one year away from her farm in Milledgeville? Yet her stories are full of life and drama and real humanity, and it’s because she kept her eyes open. Experience is about seeing what’s around you, not going different places and putting yourself in danger—it’s about being attentive, seeing how things work, what they add up to.”

-Tobias Wolf, “The Art of Fiction No. 183”

This entry is part 1 of 5 in the series How to Overcome Writer's Block

The Living Work of Art

I’m realizing lately that the biggest impediment to finishing my novel, perhaps to finishing any work of writing for me, is my emphasis on finishing it.

Because a novel isn’t just about the finished product. For the writer, that’s just one piece of the puzzle.

So much of what we do in life is not actually about what we do but how we do it. In my friendships, I don’t strive to just be a friend, I strive to be a perceptive and empathetic friend. When I teach a chess lesson, it’s not about checking off the lesson as completed afterwards, it’s about the teaching moments themselves. And it’s not just about teaching my students to be better chess players, but teaching them all the vast ways one can improve at a skill, showing them that often they are capable of much more than they initially believe they are. It’s not what the moment is but how it’s spent.

And I’m realizing that it can be the same with writing a book: more about the experience of writing it than the finished product. Your book is a living work of art, starting at the very first inkling of an idea. It’s alive with you. It’s alive every moment you think of it and test a new idea out in your mind. It’s alive every time you slash your pen through a sentence. It’s alive within everyone you share a little piece of it with. It’s alive as creating it makes you into a better writer.

For a long time, I’ve seen my book as this vision I have in my head that no one will really understand until I’ve finished it. But I think I have to let that go. I think I have to start letting myself share little imperfect pieces of it while it’s in progress, even in this early first draft state. I think I’d been holding myself back in fear that if I share bits of it too early, the seeds of this developing idea will be squashed.

I think instead letting it see the light of day will help it grow. And help me grow as a writer. And help me connect with others.

I haven’t yet figured out the details of what about the novel to share or how to do it, but the will is there. I’ll build from that. Stay tuned!